I dislike most people

Maybe it is me, because i don't have both male and female children- but, it drives me bananas when people are "oh "boys will be boys" no your kid is just mean and you clearly have not showed or taught your child sympathy and he has no sense of empathy. And then the whole "oh don't be rouhg, she just a girl" bullshit. no then your kid has no idea what it is like to be a person that can do shit outside of what you think is normal. Well that last one actually applies to both accounts. Kids will be kids they are learning how to deal with social situations. Stop excusing your kids shitty behavior on their gender. My kids do shitty shit all the time. not because they are boys but because idk, maybe i didn't explain it well enough or this is a new experience for them or maybe they didn't get the memo. Who knows but don't excuse crappy behavior on gender.
I get told all the time to stop "acting like a man" when i have no sympathy for someone who screws up at a job or in a social/friendship situation because of "emotional" things/issues. Yes, i am crass yes i am very "you made your bed" type of person but why is that the reason they say "acting like a man". i have no time for nonsense, but plenty time for situations, even emotional ones, that have basis and reason. I am sympathetic and empathetic, to a lot. I just can't handle drawn out bologana stories/explanations when the same thing could be conveyed in 1 minute and instead of me getting irritated by your speech about it all, you could have given me the facts and i could have communicated without being irritated.  Short and to the point. Please and a thank you will be thrown in for good measure.